Do long distance relationships really work?
I met thіѕ guy οn holiday, hе′s four years older thаn mе bυt hе wаntѕ a long distance relationship..
anyone gοt аnу experiences wіth thаt?
I met thіѕ guy οn holiday, hе′s four years older thаn mе bυt hе wаntѕ a long distance relationship..
anyone gοt аnу experiences wіth thаt?
you can make it work if you really like him and you are keen to make an effort. It’s gonna be REALLY hard though..not being able to see or talk to each other whenever you want to can be really frustrating..
it didn’t work so well on me. but i reflect it CAN work as long as you work with the right person. excellent luck!
based on my personal experienceS, sad to say hunnie, but it won’t. but i estimate it’s still up to you.
It’s always hard and it depends on how much a couple like one another to say whether it would work.
For a long distance relationship to work you have to be set to face the fact that you will only see him once, twice a yer and it will be mostly a non-physical relationship e.g phonecalls/texts/emails. For me personally, that’s not enough I like to be able to experience the physical side of things as well as I believe there’s nothing quite like one-on-one communication to get your feelings across. But you might be the perfect opposite.
A non-physical relationship has many problems in the sense that terrible feeling and arguments rise very straightforwardly. For example, if one or the other dosen’t text back or dosen’t call when he says he will – it will subconciously spark jealous, nervous feelings at the back of your mind – who is he with? what’s he doing?. I know you can get these in a physical relationship too, but they are a lot simpler to sort out in the way that you can go see the person to resolve things.
It really depends on how much you like this guy though.
One of my oldest friends has been seeing her boyfriend for nearly two years now and they are going to separate universities next month and they are going to try and make it work – apparently because they believe eachother is “The One”, I’m not sure – it may work/it may not. But at the end of the day, don’t feel like you have to go into this relationship with him – it might be better to find someone closer to home
well, it did work for me, although you can’t help it he flirts a small with other girls too,. you’ll be miles away, sweetie, so you don’t have a clue.
uhm,. just don’t be one of the jealous girls of the planet and things will work out!
No.
You are too young for that stuff.
Go on!
i m in a long distance relationship the last 2 yrs n if u like the person u r with u can make it n take the HUGE effort that takes
OK. Here’s my tale (it’s really different from yours, though).
My bf and I have been dating since Feb 06. I went into his and his parents house in May of 06. Last August, he got tired of being so overwhelmed by both his parents and I. He grew up in a house where everyone sweet much kept to themselves; his parents were usually in their room when they were home, while he was always in his. So, when I went in, he went from being a loner to having someone around him sweet much 24/7. So, he got stressed out and went to his friends house out of state, but only just for a few months. I had to go out of his parents house because I got a job in a different town. So, I went to my apartment, and then a month later, he went out of state. My heart has never hurt so terrible. It was really hard for me to be away from him. I became severely depressed… it didn’t help that I lived alone, and it was weird being by myself, since I was used to him being around. I called him and emailed/texted/IMed him too often, causing him to get annoyed, which meant that he would talk less and less with me. He needed a break from me too, and there I was, practically bugging him everyday. I knew that if I bugged him too much, he wouldn’t talk to me for a while. So I tried not to annoy him, but that never worked.
The toughest part was not being able to hug him. Not being able to sleep in his arms. I was so stressed and messed up from everything that I started threatening to hurt myself to make him come back. He said that if I did that, it’d make him stay there longer. So, I never did that.
He’s back now, has been since mid January. We both learned a lot from the experience; I establish out that I may possibly live alone and support myself. He realized that he was being selfish for moving, because it hurt not just me, it hurt his parents, his grandma, and some of our friends.
Honestly, if you find the right person, but there’s a time when it needs to be a long distance relationship, support them. Give them some interval. Don’t make stupid decisions, like I did, to try to get them back sooner. If you have the faith that you can remain loyal to each other, still be in like as much as you were before you had to be away from each other, then it’ll work.
Hmmmmmmm. Alarm bells are going off. Most holiday relationships don’t carry on outside the holiday. What exactly is involved in this long distance relationship? You don’t see anyone else?
Can’t you be fantastic friends and keep in upset? If your relationship grows deeper as you get to know each other better, then perhaps it may develop into something lasting and fantastic. If in the future you can be together then that’s something to look forward too.
I have a fantastic long distance relationship, so I know they can work. But it does depend on how far apart you are, how often you can get together and for how long this is going to go on for.
The thing is we were together for quite a while and had a committed relationship long before the separation. We knew each other really well and really delight in each other’s company. We talk together a lot (about 3 times a day, at first it felt like I’d agreed to have a tail!) and we get together quite often. It’s expensive, but worth it to us.
That’s not to say that it HAS to be exactly like this, cos every relationship is different. But – these are the things that make it work for us, and missing some of these fundamentals is why a previous relationship got the GI (Geographically Impossible) rating.
This is a new relationship, except you’re going to be able to be together in the honestly foreseeable future, I suggest that you don’t make it exclusive.
No need to trot out the the “It’s been fun … ” address just yet. Stay in close contact if that’s fun, but don’t place your life into suspended animation.